Thursday, 8 May 2014
30 Days Blog Challenge - Day 01 - Your current relationship
I am going to throw it out there...I don't think love exists.
An uncharacteristically cynical opinion for a 21 year old female but, however many Disney movies you may have watched when you were little, I am afraid to say that no prince is coming to sweep you off your feet anytime soon. They don't exist either.
What does exist though, is attraction and, rather than love, I think relationships stem from that. You are attracted to the person, you get to know them, you get used to them, you continue putting up with them...that's it. None of this wishy washy lovey dovey stuff.
We live in a very shallow society where looks matter a lot. Whoever tells you otherwise is lying. If you get on with a guy well, that's all well and good but, to put it bluntly, you are not going to have sex with a warthog. There has to be a level of attraction and if you do not find him appealing, there is no way you will actually take things further. Tinder is a prime example of this. Following its release and subsequent popularity, it was absolutely panned by criticisms of it being unbelievably judgemental. But isn't that exactly what we do all day? If a guy approaches you in a bar and offers to buy you a drink, he's not psychic. He doesn't know the first thing about your personality, it was all down to looks. So how is Tinder any different?
It won't surprise you when I say that I am single. Very single. But happily so. I am an educated, semi intelligent, independent woman and although they seem to be a rare breed, I do not have the overwhelming need to rely on a male's good opinion of me to feel worthwhile. And actually when I have dated or fallen for people in the past, it seemed to have the opposite effect. So for now, I am completely fine with my own company. But who knows...maybe my prince is waiting out there for me and in a few year's time, I will be writing a very different blog post...
If you want to read further about what it's like to be single at university, click here http://charlottecoster.blogspot.co.uk/2013/10/single-life-at-university.html